When Parenthood Feels Lonely: Finding Yourself (and Each Other) Again
Did anyone tell you just how lonely parenting could feel?
Maybe you entered parenthood with spreadsheets of scheduled activities and visions of seamless connection, only to wake up months later feeling like a background character in someone else’s story. Your days blur together in a whirlwind of snacks, playgrounds, and never-ending laundry, and somewhere along the way, you might start asking, “Where am I in all this?”
If your answer feels less than satisfying and your relationship with your partner has become more about logistics than laughter, we hear you. At Embrace Renewal Therapy, we see parents just like you invest in their own wellness (bravo!) and, crucially, in the wellness of their relationships. Here’s the good news: It’s not only possible, but necessary, to prioritize both.
You’re Not Broken - Just Becoming
On a recent episode of The Real Family Eats podcast, guest Krissy Bold spoke candidly about her transition from independent woman to round-the-clock mom of two. From joining virtual playgroups in a pandemic to navigating the unique heartbreak of a car ride with a screaming baby, her journey is something so many of us can relate to: “Am I even a person with needs that matter?” she wondered.
If you, too, feel your identity has become lost in service of everyone else, you’re in good company, and not just on a podcast. Our collective’s couples therapy, parenting workshops, and intensives are designed precisely for parents who want more than mere survival. We help you move from just “getting through” the day to finding meaning (and even joy) in your evolving identity, both as individuals and as partners.
Loneliness Isn’t a Failure. It’s a Signal.
Here’s what’s true: Parenting changes everything, including your relationship. You may find yourselves bickering over bedtime or feeling like ships passing in the night, unsure how to reconnect over something deeper than whose turn it is to empty the diaper pail. Krissy’s story offers reassurance: Growth isn’t about bouncing back to who you were “before,” it’s about discovering (together) who you are now.
If that brings up sadness, grief, or guilt, that’s normal. But it also opens space for intentional action: What would it look like to invest in your wellness as parents and as a couple? At Embrace Renewal Therapy, you’ll find support that sees you as whole people - parents, yes, but also partners, friends, lovers, and selves.
Start Small. Start Together.
Krissy shared her practical strategy for finding herself again: collecting “breadcrumbs” of joy: a book club, a podcast, a moment of laughter, an intentional cup of coffee. Maybe for you, the first step is reaching out for support, joining a workshop, or squeezing in a vulnerable conversation with your partner over takeout.
If your brain says you’re too exhausted, too busy, or that prioritizing your partnership is selfish, consider this your invitation to reframe. The most resilient families are those that invest in their foundation: their relationship. Our parenting workshops, newborn baby couples workshops, and relationship intensives are tailored to your life stage, your very real constraints, and your goals. You don’t need to do this alone (in fact, you’re not meant to).
Ready to Move Up the Pyramid?
Maybe lately, you’re just scraping by - getting everyone fed, clothed, and (mostly) rested. That’s survival, and it’s important. But at Embrace Renewal Therapy & Wellness Collective, our mission is to help you keep climbing: social connection, self-actualization, deep love, and partnership.
We invite you to embrace renewal. That might mean coming to a couples therapy session, signing up for an upcoming workshop, or simply clicking over to listen to inspiring stories like Krissy’s. Let’s normalize that investing in yourself and your relationship isn’t selfish. It’s foundational. It’s how great families are built, one brave choice at a time.
Take a Next Step:
Visit our services page to see upcoming couples workshops and therapy offerings, or contact us for a consultation. And for real-talk inspiration, check out the latest episode of The Real Family Eats podcast. Sometimes all it takes to spark renewal is knowing you’re not alone.
Parents, you matter. Your relationship matters. Let’s get growing together.
