Why Do Couples Fight After the Honeymoon Phase
Featured in HuffPost: There's A Name For That Post-Honeymoon Period In Your Relationship Where All You Do Is Fight
When the honeymoon phase ends, many couples are surprised to find that conflict—not calm—shows up instead. Arguments may feel sharper, unspoken expectations pile up, and frustration can replace the ease of early romance.
In her HuffPost feature, Reesa Morala, LMFT, explains what’s really happening during this transition and why so many couples struggle. Early infatuation fades, and daily responsibilities, routines, and differences become more visible. It’s not a sign your relationship is broken—it’s a normal stage of growth.
Why this happens
The honeymoon glow fades. Real life replaces novelty, and differences stand out more.
Unspoken expectations clash. Needs go unmet when couples don’t voice them clearly.
Power struggles emerge. Shifts in roles, independence, and responsibilities can spark tension.
The Good News
Conflict after the honeymoon isn’t failure—it’s an invitation to grow. Reesa emphasizes that couples can move through this stage with healthier communication, intentional connection, and mutual respect. Small, consistent practices—like sharing affection daily, clarifying expectations, and listening without defensiveness—help partners rebuild closeness.
This stage is less about “losing the spark” and more about learning to build sustainable love. With curiosity and compassion, couples can create deeper connection than they had at the start.
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