Parenting tips: How to Parent in the Modern World
Parenting today looks very different than it did a generation ago.
Expectations are higher, schedules move faster, and the weight of judgment—from society, social media, and even within our own families—presses down on parents in ways that feel overwhelming. For many, the constant pressure to “get it right” overshadows the deeper goal of connection.
In this episode of The Scene Projects, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Reesa Morala, MA, LMFT, joins host Bubba Startz for a candid conversation about therapy, parenting, and the role of vulnerability in navigating modern challenges. Drawing on her personal story and professional expertise, Reesa offers insights into how therapy has evolved, why vulnerability matters, and how real conversations can transform the way families relate to one another.
How Therapy Is Changing
Therapy today isn’t what it was twenty or thirty years ago. Once seen as rigid or “one-size-fits-all,” therapy has shifted into more flexible and personalized approaches. Reesa explains that effective therapy adapts to the individual or family, taking into account not just symptoms, but stories, experiences, and cultural context.
She emphasizes that healing happens when therapy becomes collaborative—when clients feel empowered to bring their authentic selves to the process. This personalization allows parents, couples, and families to find approaches that truly fit their needs rather than trying to force themselves into models that don’t align.
Vulnerability as a Strength
A central theme of this conversation is the transformative power of vulnerability. Parenting often feels like a stage where judgment is constant—what you feed your kids, how you discipline, or whether you’re “balancing it all.” In that environment, it’s tempting to armor up, to hide imperfections in hopes of avoiding criticism.
Reesa offers a different path: choosing vulnerability. When parents allow themselves to be real—admitting they’re tired, overwhelmed, or unsure—they create space for connection rather than isolation. Vulnerability shifts judgment into understanding, opening the door for deeper empathy within families and communities.
The Challenges of Parenting Today
Today’s parents face unique challenges that previous generations didn’t. Technology blurs work-life boundaries, social media creates unrealistic comparisons, and cultural expectations often leave little room for failure or rest. These pressures can leave parents feeling constantly behind.
Yet, Reesa reminds us that what kids need most isn’t perfection—it’s presence. Even in a fast-paced world, intentional presence, whether through small rituals or mindful listening, helps children feel safe, valued, and truly seen.
Connection Over Perfection
Perfection may seem like the ultimate goal, but in reality, it creates distance. When parents chase flawless performance, they often lose authenticity. Reesa highlights that connection is what truly matters. Kids don’t remember perfect schedules or polished images—they remember the moments they felt loved, understood, and accepted.
In both parenting and therapy, authenticity builds trust. By being honest about struggles and willing to share imperfections, parents model resilience for their children and create stronger family bonds.
The Healing Power of Conversation
Throughout the episode, one message is clear: conversation heals. When parents, partners, or families share their stories and struggles openly, they not only release the weight of silence but also build bridges of understanding.
Reesa emphasizes that even when judgment arises, it can be reframed as an opportunity—to practice empathy, deepen compassion, and grow closer as a family. Healing doesn’t require grand gestures; it begins with genuine dialogue.
Key Takeaways for Parents
Therapy is evolving. Modern approaches are flexible and tailored to individual needs.
Vulnerability transforms. Being open replaces judgment with understanding.
Parenting has new challenges. Presence is the antidote to fast-paced pressure.
Connection matters more than perfection. Authenticity deepens family bonds.
Conversation heals. Sharing stories and struggles builds resilience.
Judgment isn’t final. It can spark empathy and compassion instead of shame.
A Message of Hope
This conversation offers hope for parents navigating today’s world: you don’t have to be perfect to raise resilient children or to build strong families. Therapy, vulnerability, and honest conversations are not signs of weakness—they are tools for connection and growth. By embracing authenticity, parents can create spaces where both they and their children truly thrive.
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